STOP RELYING ON YOUR HOROSCOPE, YOU CAN FIND LOVE IN 2018

I’m in my early thirties. I’m a strong, independent and yes, divorced woman; who happens to live thousands of miles away from her family in one of the largest cities in the world, London.

I try to enjoy life at its fullest because if there’s something I’ve learnt is to seize the moment - Travel as much as I can, buy the shoes, drink the wine, eat the cake, do all the things that make my soul happy. I don’t allow any room for negativity or resentful feelings in my heart and I’m very focused on building a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

I’ve come to a point where I feel at absolute peace with myself and where I am. Still, I feel like there’s something missing…

I’ve never been the type of woman who gets her heart broken and becomes consumed by anger and revenge, I just don’t have ti­me (or energy) for that. I rather do good and focus on the positive side of things. I believe in second chances and new beginnings. I believe we all deserve to be loved and have somebody to love. After all, what would be of this world without love?

One of my resolutions for this year is to be more open for love. Somehow, after going through some bad experiences, I’ve developed a tendency to put my shell on and block my feelings to avoid being hurt again. This has got to stop. It’s been my mechanism of defence for years but I’ve come to realize it’s not allowing me to love the way I want to; that ridiculous, consuming, can’t live without each other love that Carrie Bradshaw thought us about. 

Living in such a large city like London has a lot of advantages, and you might think it’s the perfect place to find love because well, it’s full of people! I wish it was just that easy. The truth is that the bigger the city, the harder it gets to find people you can genuinely connect with. Everyone seems to be so busy and minding their own business, and I perfectly get that because that’s exactly what I do; I need to be selective with my time and who I spend it with because let’s face it, we are all VERY BUSY. But when do I make time for love then? How do I find that special someone if I don’t go out clubbing or have friends who happen to have very interesting, good looking male friends? The answer is on my phone.

As a millennial, I was born with a mobile phone attached to my body. Around 70% of my everyday activities are done on or with the support of my phone, so why not trying online dating? It takes a lot of stress from the whole dating process and it’s much safer than the traditional method; plus you can decide whether you want to meet someone or not after a few conversations which also removes the awkwardness of ghosting someone after a failed first date. I literally can’t believe it has taken me this long to figure this out!

The largest dating app in the market is Badoo; and with over 364 million users, that’s a lot to choose from. The app is very user friendly so you don’t need to be a techy to be able to use it. You can easily register with your Facebook profile or create a new one in a few simple steps if you prefer more privacy. Once you’re logged-in the app starts giving you suggestions based on proximity so you can easily identify the one who catches your eye - you can also filter by age, gender and location so you’re not viewing random profiles that may not be of your interest. It also has a very cool functionality called “Lookalike” in which you can upload a picture of someone, let’s say your famous crush (mine would be something like a full body picture of Thor or Wolverine because apparently, I have a thing for superheroes now), and the app will find the lookalikes in for you, you can also see the people who look like you and OMG, it’s crazy fun!

As my first experience using a dating app, I must say I’m having a lot of fun with Badoo! I don’t know if I’ll find the love of my life on it, but I’m up for the challenge!

I’d like to close this post reminding you that love is everywhere, you just need to be open to it. Don’t let experiences from the past hold you back or make you bitter, because at the end of the day all we really need is love.

I wish you all a fantastic 2018 full of love, romance and fun adventures with Badoo!